Everybody’s been the victim of behind-the-back smack talk, whether it’s an unfounded rumor that you pick your nose or a mean comment about your sweater. When you hear someone’s been gossiping about you, there’s only one thing to do: stand tall and continue to rock on.
But there’s always that awkward moment when you’re the one caught up in the nasty conversation about someone who’s not there to defend themselves. What do you do? Join in? Just listen? Pretend to have an important appointment elsewhere?
Here’s a challenge for all you ladies and gents: curb the hate. That’s right. Next time you’re swapping stories over lunch and your conversation partners start cutting into whoever’s face they don’t like that day, why not bring the conversation up to your level? No one will be mad. Use the double conversation-change. First change the topic to the positive attributes of the person currently on the chopping block. Then change the topic to something completely different. Like your cats.
When we say bad things about other people, it more often points toward a flaw in us–not the person we’re attacking. Not to mention that it fractures friendships and wrecks communities. Next time you feel the need be snide, think about taking a look inward and considering what in you is closed off.
How do you handle gossip-sessions? What do you do when conversation crosses the line?